If you're thinking about starting therapy, you've recently started, or you're just wondering what it's all about, this is the blog for you!
There can be a lot of mystery surrounding therapy, and many misconceptions which often arise from an unhelpful portrayal of therapy on T.V. and in the media generally. I aim to give you a taste of what to expect, at least from the kind of therapy I offer, which is Person-Centred.
I think it will be helpful to begin by debunking some therapy myths:
What to expect
If you decide to have therapy with me, here are some helpful pointers about what you might expect.
At the introductory session: this is a chance for us to get to know each other and notice how the dynamic feels. Can we imagine working well together for a course of sessions, perhaps even long-term?
I will ask you some questions about your background, lifestyle, key relationships and what has brought you to counselling. I'll help you to consider any goals you might have. I will also share the contract and ask if you wish to add or tweak anything, as this is a two-way agreement- not a list of rules I impose on you!
During regular sessions: if we both feel O.K. to continue working together, I will offer further sessions. These are led by you, and you can decide what you would like to explore. I will listen to you, and help you identify the emotions you are feeling. Often clients find that by hearing words, phrases and even body language reflected back to them, they gain deeper clarity and insight.
Sometimes it can take a while to "warm-up" to therapy. It may even feel a bit awkward at first. This is completely normal as it can take time to build trust and feel comfortable with someone new, especially as you are sharing very personal things. You will soon find your flow. However, if you change your mind about working with me, or the time doesn't feel right, it's perfectly fine to say so. You are always very welcome to get in touch again in the future.
Some people think that when they start therapy, things will quickly start to feel better. While this can be true, it's actually very normal to feel some uncomfortable emotions. Opening up wounds can be painful and you may find that life unravels a bit as you deconstruct core-beliefs and begin to change the way you think and act in day-to-day life. This is all part of healing and growth.
Top tips to get the most from therapy:
All the best for this exciting journey to becoming a more self-aware, authentic you. This is probably one of the most precious gifts you will ever give yourself!